I was talking with my husband one night about some of the reactions I get when I tell people that I homeschool. It’s always the same reactions with a few twists every now and again. On this night I was particularly vexed by someone when my husband decided to write a Facebook post. I liked it so much I decided to give it to you also, in case you had any of the same misgivings, or if your husband needed to know what other spouses thought of homeschooling. Enjoy!
A Husband’s View of Homeschooling
Did you know that 3.3% of school-aged children are homeschooled? (As of 2016 and according to the Coalition for Responsible Home Education.)
One of the first questions we’re asked when people find out we homeschool is if we worry about proper socialization. This is because the perception is that homeschooled kids are socially awkward. I’m not saying that some homeschooled kids aren’t awkward, because some of them are. But think about all the people you have ever met. I’m willing to bet that more than 3% of the people you have made contact with are socially awkward. In other words, I’m not worried about sending my kids to school to learn social skills from kids whose parents are sending them to school to learn social skills from my kid. I’d rather my kids learn social skills from my wife, an adult.
Second, people are worried that we’re not qualified to teach our kids. Do we have Education degrees? No we don’t. Does that mean we can’t teach our own kids what 2+2 is, or why the Magna Carta is an important document, or that the Earth is not flat and how to eloquently and logically argue that fact? No it doesn’t. It means we can’t teach your kids those and other things in a public school. (Unless we choose to be a substitute teacher. Then we’re not required to have an education degree to teach, per se.) We’re teaching our kids to be responsible humans in a safe and comfortable environment as well as teaching them how to do math, to write, and to read and you don’t need an education degree or certification to do that. Not yet anyway.
Third, everyone knows that one family that sucked at homeschooling and their kids didn’t learn anything and grew up to be uneducated, socially awkward morons and because of that, shouldn’t we rethink subjecting our kids to that same fate? Listen, my parents sucked so badly at being parents that they were sentenced to a combined 19 years in prison for how awful they were at parenting. Does that mean I should question whether you’ll be a good parent or not and then tell you that you shouldn’t be a parent?
Bottom line is this: We have the right to choose how to educate our children, just as anyone else has that same right. Whether people agree with our choice or not doesn’t matter. Whether people understand our choice or not doesn’t matter. What is frustrating is that people don’t try to understand our choice and instead judge us for it.
Homeschooling isn’t wrong. Neither are those who choose to homeschool. Thanks. That is all.